You Didn't Hear This From Me

Alan BelniakUncategorized0 Comments

“Hey, you didn’t hear this from me, but…”

 

I heard this the other day in passing.  A co-worker was on his mobile phone in a common area, talking to someone else.  He proceeded to divulge some information that was seemingly useful to the other party, and he obtained it presumably sworn to secrecy.  I think we’ve all been here before, or somewhere close.

 
"You didn't hear this from me, but I heard that Sally totally lost the Underhill account!"

"You didn't hear this from me, but I heard that Sally totally lost the Underhill account!"

 

“Hey, you didn’t hear this from me, but here’s what the real deal is…”

 

I don’t like this one bit.

 

Someone else told this person that I’m witnessing something and asked to keep it in confidence.  This person then goes on to tell that very same information to someone else, and hides under the veil of “well, now you might know, but I don’t want you to divulge how you found out.”

 

By saying this to someone else and having me hear it, you’ve just completely destroyed any possible chance of me telling you anything in confidence.  If that’s how you treat sensitive data from someone else, how am I expected to trust you with anything  of value that I might share with you?

 

You did hear this from me: grow up, be honest, and be professional.